As Is AF: Becoming the Person You’re Destined to Be
As Is AF: Manifesting the Life You Deserve
In a world where everyone says, “fake it till you make it,” let me drop a truth bomb: faking it isn’t the answer. It’s temporary, surface-level, and lacks the transformative power of true embodiment. What you really need is to be it before you see it. Success, health, love—whatever you’re striving for—doesn’t arrive by chance. It’s a result of alignment, deliberate action, and an unshakable belief in your ability to achieve greatness.
Let’s get one thing straight: alignment isn’t a buzzword. It’s a lifestyle. You want success? Act successful. You want love? Be love. You want to feel unstoppable? Start moving like nothing can stop you. Let’s break this down, layer by layer, and unlock the secrets to living “As Is AF.”
The Art of Becoming Who You’re Meant to Be
Imagine this: You’re sipping your morning coffee, scrolling through Instagram, and you see someone living the life you dream of. Maybe it’s a thriving entrepreneur, a fitness model with glowing skin, or a couple so in love it makes rom-coms look bland. Instead of comparing yourself to them, what if you used that moment as a wake-up call? What if, instead of wishing, you started being?
Here’s the truth: success, love, and health don’t knock on your door uninvited. They don’t text you a casual “u up?” at 3 a.m. You have to embody the energy, habits, and mindset of the person you aspire to become. This is the essence of being “As Is AF.” Translation? Act as if you already are.
No more waiting for the stars to align, the perfect moment, or someone to give you permission. You are the star, the moment is now, and permission is yours to grant.
The Foundation of Alignment
Alignment isn’t a one-time decision; it’s a daily practice. It’s about embodying your highest self in every thought, action, and decision. But let’s make one thing clear: alignment doesn’t mean perfection. It means authenticity. It means showing up for yourself even when it’s hard, even when you don’t feel ready.
Ask Yourself:
- Who do I want to become?
- What does the best version of me do differently?
- How can I start embodying those qualities today?
The answers to these questions are your blueprint for alignment. They’re your GPS to the life you desire.
Success: Step Into It Like It’s Your Birthright
Success isn’t reserved for the chosen few. It’s not about luck or privilege—it’s about mindset and action. If you want to be successful, you have to start treating your dreams like they matter. Because they do.
Own Your Dreams
Stop playing small. Your goals aren’t just hobbies; they’re the building blocks of your future. Stop treating them like an afterthought and start showing up like you mean it. Success begins with the decision to believe in your own worth.
Practical Steps to Embody Success:
- Dress the Part: You don’t need designer clothes, but you do need to present yourself with confidence. Wear outfits that make you feel powerful and polished.
- Talk Like a Leader: Eliminate self-doubt from your vocabulary. Replace “I’m trying” with “I’m doing.” Speak with authority and intention.
- Upgrade Your Environment: Surround yourself with people and spaces that inspire ambition. Attend networking events, seek out mentors, and curate a circle that fuels your growth.
Pro Tip: Set daily micro-goals. These small wins build momentum and reinforce your belief in your ability to succeed.
Health: A Lifestyle, Not a Trend
Let’s talk about health, darling. It’s not just about looking good (though that’s a nice bonus). True health is about energy, vitality, and feeling unstoppable in your own skin. It’s about creating a body and mind that support your dreams.
Move Like You Mean It
Exercise isn’t optional if you’re serious about living “As Is AF.” But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be complicated. Start with what you enjoy—a walk, a dance class, or a quick yoga session. The key is consistency. Movement isn’t just about calories burned; it’s about confidence gained.
Nourish With Love
Eating well isn’t about deprivation; it’s about fuel. Think of your meals as tools to amplify your energy and focus. Choose foods that make you feel vibrant and alive. And yes, you can still enjoy that slice of pizza—balance is key.
Mindset Over Mirror:
Health isn’t just physical; it’s mental and emotional too. Prioritize rest, manage stress, and practice gratitude. When you feel good, you radiate confidence, and that’s what truly makes you magnetic.
Love: Manifest Like a Magnet
Love isn’t about finding someone to complete you. It’s about becoming so whole that you naturally attract someone who matches your energy. Stop waiting for “the one” and start becoming “the one.”
Love Yourself First
Want respect, adoration, and commitment from others? Start by giving those things to yourself. Treat yourself with the same care and kindness you’d want from a partner. Set boundaries, prioritize self-care, and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve.
Date With Intention
You’re not here to entertain lukewarm energy. Date with purpose, clarity, and confidence. Engage with people who see your worth and align with your values.
Romanticize Your Life
From lighting candles for a solo dinner to dressing up for a coffee run, make every moment magical. When you treat your life like the masterpiece it is, you attract the kind of love that complements—not completes—you.
The Ripple Effect of Acting As Is
Here’s the magic of being “As Is AF”: it doesn’t just transform your life—it inspires everyone around you. Confidence is contagious. When you walk into a room owning your worth, people take notice. Opportunities arise, doors open, and life starts working in your favor.
Final Thoughts: Own Your Greatness!
Here’s the takeaway, darling: The life you dream of isn’t some distant fantasy—it’s a reality waiting for you to step into it. When you act “As Is AF,” you’re not just pretending to be your best self; you’re actively becoming her. Walk into every situation with the confidence of someone who already has it all. Speak with authority, live with purpose, and love yourself unapologetically.
And remember, transformation doesn’t happen in isolation. Sometimes, we all need a little guidance, a fresh perspective, or someone to remind us of the power we hold within. That’s where I come in.
If you’re ready to start embodying your highest self and taking bold, aligned action toward your goals, I’d love to support you. I’m offering a complimentary coaching session to help you identify what’s holding you back and create a personalized plan to move forward with clarity and confidence.
Click here to book your session, and let’s start this journey together. Because you’re not just capable—you’re destined for greatness. Let’s make it happen.
Your transformation starts now. Let’s do this!
Vivica Fishburne
Vivica Fisburne, also known as Coach Vivica B, is a dynamic Success and Confidence Coach, Brand. Consultant,Author, Speaker, and Serial-Preneur. With a passion for empowering others, Vivica has dedicated her career to helping individuals unlock their full potential and achieve their goals. A graduate of Coaches Alliance, Vivica brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to her work. As a mother of five, she understands the challenges and rewards of balancing a busy life while pursuing personal and professional aspirations. Additionally, her journey as a breast cancer survivor and advocate has instilled in her a deep appreciation for resilience and the power of the human spirit. When she's not inspiring others, Vivica enjoys pursuing her own passions and spending time with family and friends. She’s a dedicated reader, hiker, and fitness enthusiast. She also loves to express herself through music, playing guitar and singing, and sharing her thoughts through her blog.